The 'Perfect Body'

Saturday, 18 April 2015

Fat shaming, body positivity, the perfect body

How is your weekend going? Today I am going to talk about something a little different than what I usually write about. But it's something that I wanted to get off my mind.

I was just scrolling on Facebook when a photo of Selena Gomez popped up. She was in a bathing suit which showed off her lovely body and I said to myself, I think that I am about the same size as her so if she's a celebrity and embracing her body then I am at a good weight. But then I went to the comments section and my heart just sank. Nearly all the comments were about her weight and saying "ew you're fat", "lose some weight", "you look really big" etc... This immediately made me feel insecure about myself as I had just compared myself to her.

Don't these people know that they are not only hurting her but many other women around the world who have the same body as her? I don't think that she even sees these comments so it hardly affects her. I also highly doubt that the people who said these awful things have the 'perfect body'. So why do they still do it?

I am a UK size 8/10 and I do sometimes feel that I am 'too big' as I look nothing like celebrities and models. But I know that I am fine and that it is all in my head. With all of this pressure to be 'perfect', a person cannot help to not feel right.

I don't think that it is a really good place where our culture is headed, where everybody needs to be the same and compares each other. I know that this contradicts what I said earlier but that is just an effect of constantly hearing these things.

And to finish off this post here's a quote by the ever fierce and funny Jennifer Lawrence who I definitely admire.

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I am sorry if you weren't expecting this kind of post and that it was a little rambly but I needed to address this.

Thanks for stopping by :)

Sarah xx

82 comments

  1. I am totally agree with your opinion. You should write like that more.
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    1. Thank you! I will definitely try to write more like this rather than always about beauty :)

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  2. I agree with you ! nice post :) xx

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  3. I couldn't agree anymore! Theres so many girls becoming ill because of this 'perfect body' everyones beautiful.

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  4. A very well written blogpost! Huggs from the Netherlands x♥

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  5. Great post :) I'm a plus size girl and I always feel like I'm too big and looked down on. I wish the media would go away and stop the whole body shaming as there is NOTHING positive about it! People should embrace who they are instead of being scared and ashamed :)

    Natalie Ann xo // Petal Poppet Blogs ♥

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    1. Definitely. The media leaves such a bad effect on people!

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  6. I totally agree with this! And there's always going to be different shops that have different sizing. For example I'm normally a 10 but had to buy a size 12 skirt. I will admit it made me feel prettyshite about myself. I started thinking I was fat and that I needed to loose weight. But it is all about being healthy and feeling comfortable about your body!xxx

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    1. That also happened to me once and I felt really bad about myself!

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  7. This is a very important post, Sarah! A lot of girls need to know that it's okay to be the size they are. We're shown so much in the media that is not true or attainable at all...It's always nice to read something like this to feel balanced again. Thanks for sharing :)

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  8. I agree!! Everyone's "perfect/healthy" size is different. No one should be able to make you feel bad if you feel good about yourself :)

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  9. Couldn't agree more! Great post x

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  10. Such an important point to make. Selena Gomez couldn't be any further from fat. But most importantly, nobody should be judging her anyway. It's scary how the media/world focus so heavily on body image :(

    Elle
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    1. That's so true. The media does everything to get attention

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  11. I really admire Jennifer Lawrence xx

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  12. nice blog!
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  13. Such a great post!
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  14. Body shaming has just got to the point where it is actually ridiculous and it needs to stop. i personally don;t think there is such a thing as a perfect body, we all have flaws and everyone is beautiful in their own way x

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  15. amazing blog post !!

    thanks for sharing :)


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  16. Of course you are fine!! uk 8/10 is a perferct size for woman! I'm a 6/8 and it's hard to find some normal clothes and not to look like a teen ;)

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  17. Great post, it is really scary that anyone is calling Selena Gomez fat btw.....don't pay attention to the internet. End of story. :)
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  18. I've been thinking about this a lot too Sarah! Have you seen Cassey Hoe's newest video ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PsL7W-GHhJA ) It talks about these issues. I can't imagine the scrutiny of being a celebrity or a YouTube fitness person because there are always people out there who want to bring you down and be a critic!! It just goes to show you how insecure they feel about themselves though...people who are positive and love themselves don't shame other people for their bodies. Just throwing that out there :)

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    1. I agree. Will definitely check out the video :)

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  19. I think people who say , these horrible things , are just jealous :<
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  20. Great post, I totally agree with this!!!
    Kisses, Paola.

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  21. I absolutely agree with you. There is no necessity everyone was size 0. I've never been very skinny and I have no problem about that. Great post. xx
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    1. Definitely. The important thing is to feel comfortable and happy :)

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  22. I totally agree! I'm anywhere between a size 10,12 and 14 it just depends on the cut and material of my clothing, I hate how society its trying to tell girls/women that unless your size 0 your 'fat'. Lovely post:)
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    1. True, society is the only reason for low self esteem and awful eating habits.

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  23. I'm totally with you, its like everyone says the 'perfect body' has no fat at all, we need fat to survive and its unhealthy if you don't! Great post and i'm so happy you adressed this problem in your post x
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  24. Great post, these subjects should be brought to the surface more often.

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  25. Lov this post!!! People can be absolutely nasty!!! I can't believe people think they have the right to judge other people by their weight! Every woman is beautiful no matter what weight they are! I love Jennifer Laurence!

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  26. I agree totally with you ! Wise words dear.
    xoxo,

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  27. Love hearing your just speak your mind and show yourself on your blog, I completely agree with this whole post. It's ridiculous how we as a society make people feel so bad for being HEALTHY even. Keep speaking your heart!
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  28. I completely agree with you! Great post :)
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  29. i totally agree with you!! thanks for sharing this post! :D

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  30. Great post, I love the quote at the end :) x

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  31. Great post, you seriously took the words right out of my mouth... *hugs* - www.domesticgeekgirl.com

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  32. Celebrity and pop culture is definitely tainting our perception of "beauty" and like normal beings who react to information, we invariably get hurt by comments such as "you're fat" or "you're ugly." It's tough and it's disgusting. It's posts like these that help raise awareness of the issue, so thank you for writing this post!

    Stay beautiful!

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  33. great post! I don't understand the mentality of trolls who say crap on instagram.. All I think is that comments like that come from a negative place and a negative person who is only going to leave a negative life!

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  34. I completely agree with this post, I hate how there's pressure to be 'perfect' when really there's no such thing! And Jennifer Lawrence is a legend :)


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  35. Gweni Rees-Evans26 April 2015 at 19:59

    This is a fab post! Completely agree, it is horrible to see people write such hurtful comments on pictures of people! It's sad to see that so many of us have grown up thinking that we're fat or overweight when really it is just our bodies being our bodies. xxx

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  36. Sarah I was just reading through some of your blog posts and came across this one, it's great that bloggers are sharing their thoughts on this subject, we need more people to realize there is no such thing as a perfect body! And I loveeeee Jennifer Lawrence as well so seeing that quote on here made my day ;-)

    Anna X
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  37. This is a great post, your blog is brilliant! I think this is so important, and I completely agree all the bitching and putting people down needs to stop! We need more of these posts and peoples comments who support it!

    Josie
    josievictoriaa / fashion, travel and lifestyle

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    1. Thank you so much! Glad you agree :)

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